My parents give me anxiety

[jeplonski]

I have been recently been experiencing anxiety attacks. I am 15 and it is mainly caused by my dad. I know this is an odd place to be posting about this but I wanted to get replies from people who wouldn't tell me to look to "god" as an answer. Basically they keep trying to get involved with my emotions and when I am mad, they try to poke fun and take it upon themselves to try and cheer me up. I understand it is out of good heart but sometimes I just need to be mad and let it run its course. It has gotten to the point where it is not medically safe for me, and my parents then will confront me after to "talk later". I get that they want to help, but the main source of anxiety is coming from talking to them. What would you do or what do you recommend? I have to lye down after on my bed and I will be panting like a dog. If I try and walk away, my dad threatens to take away my phone. It has gotten to the point where I am breathing extremely hard and it is uncontrollable. I have to stop him, by yelling, saying, that I’m going to have an anxiety attack, but by that time I already am.

[EquALLity]

Hey, welcome to the forum!
You should consider making an intro.

That sounds like a frustrating situation. >.<

Well, I don't know much about this stuff, but if I were in this situation, maybe I'd try something like this, and talk about the situation to a doctor?: https://www.healthtap.com/prime-trial?v ... Apym8P8HAQ

Keep checking back on this topic btw, because this sounds important, and some people with advice might take a bit to reply.

[brimstoneSalad]

Welcome jeplonski,

I know the situation you're in.

First, communicate with them in writing. And tell them to respond in writing. That will help greatly.

Don't let them talk directly to you. Tell them to write it down, or email you.

Tell them what you've just told us; that the relationship and their behavior toward you is the main source of your anxiety.

If I try and walk away, my dad threatens to take away my phone.

Your father is trying to exert power over you and control you by threatening to take away your phone? Then just throw the phone away.
No phone, no power.
No power, you can walk away and avoid your anxiety attacks.

I know it sucks for a bit, but then you get used to it and find other things to do, and other ways to communicate.
Most of us geezers grew up without smart phones.

Your health comes first, above entertainment, and if your father is holding anything over you at all, just destroy it before he has a chance to.
He will learn he can't control you that way. When he makes a threat, just DO whatever he threatened to do.

You'll find a certain kind of catharsis in destroying the objects by which he extorts you.
You have to very reliably do it, though. Your father has to be educated that his actions are unacceptable, and it will take time to teach him that.
You might have to smash a bunch of stuff before he realizes that every time he makes a threat, you will STILL walk away, and then you will destroy the thing he threatened to take away.

Also: No fire. I know fire is a very efficient means of destruction, but fire, and arson, are quite dangerous and will land you in juvie fast. At least with electronics, water is usually a pretty good option. Sticking them in the microwave could also be safe enough, just keep a glass of water handy to douse the flames if they catch on fire.

Once this is all said and done, and your father learns that it is unacceptable to threaten you when you are on the verge of a panic attack, you can get new stuff.