Jebus wrote:
Kyron wrote:What do you think constitutes being branded "an asshole"?
People who contribute to the suffering of human and non-human animals.
There are a mix of definitions available, but the best and most essentially to the point I've found are:
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.p ... id=6051436
An asshole is a person who doesn't treat people with respect.
http://www.vocabulary.com/dictionary/asshole
Type of:
disagreeable person, unpleasant person
a person who is not pleasant or agreeable
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.p ... efid=12612
someone being arrogant, rude, obnoxious, or just a total dickhead....
Mainstream dictionaries get it pretty wrong, this is the closest I found:
http://www.thefreedictionary.com/asshole
ass·hole (ăs′hōl′)
n. Vulgar Slang
1. The anus.
2. A contemptible or detestable person.
3. The most miserable or undesirable place in a particular area.
American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fifth Edition.
Many dictionaries think it can mean stupid, which it doesn't (at least, not any more if it did).
Detestable as a little better, but still pretty relative.
This one hit the mark with regard to the subjectivity:
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.p ... fid=590068
Anyone who doesn't do exactly what you think they ought to do, exactly when you think they ought to do it.
Most consistently, an asshole is somebody who is not being polite or courteous. Somebody not being respectful or pleasant or agreeable.
If you're being pushy and telling people something they don't want to hear, you're being an asshole. And perhaps
sometimes you should be.
Although there is a lingering question as to how effective assholes really are. Is it because they were assholes, or just because they were geniuses (and just happened to also be assholes)?
Bob Sutton has been on the forefront of Asshole research for a while.
He as a short e-book (or something),
The Upside of Assholes: Is there Virtue in Bad Workplace Behavior?
http://changethis.com/manifesto/show/32 ... deAssholes
It's a pretty quick read, should only take a few minutes, but highly recommended.
For me, it wouldn’t be worth the trouble to work with Jobs or someone like him. But I’ve become
convinced that it is naïve to assume that assholes always do more harm than good. So this
essay, and the longer chapter from my book that it draws on, considers the upside of assholes.
Beware, however, that these ideas are dangerous: They provide ammunition that jerks can
use to justify, and even glorify, their penchant for demeaning others.
http://www.theatlantic.com/business/arc ... hy/249136/
Sutton's counter-thesis was that assholes--which he defined as those who deliberately make co-workers feel bad about themselves and who focus their hostility on the less powerful...
This is a pretty strong definition (more so for the workplace than out, but still); being hostile, and making people feel bad about themselves.
An asshole isn't necessarily a bad person. Being an asshole has to do with human social interaction alone, and says nothing to your net positive or negative effect upon the world.
I don't see any reason Yourofsky wouldn't be properly considered an asshole by the best definitions I have presented here. But on that basis alone, neither is there reason to think he's not a good person, or hasn't done substantially more good for the world than bad.
Kyron wrote:
I agree, most of the world doesn't. I guess we'll just agree to disagree whether or not Gary's presentation is as helpful as it could be.
I don't think anybody is saying that Yourofsky's methods couldn't be improved upon. If you got that impression from anybody here, you may have misunderstood.
Nobody's methods are perfect -- that would be astronomically improbable. We can only perfect our outreach methods through extensive trail and error, and more importantly extensive unbiased research into efficacy. To my knowledge Yourofsky isn't basing his activism on research, but more on intuition. He's doing reasonably well, considering, but certainly he could improve.
Now, whether that improvement would mean being even MORE "in your face" about it, or more meek -- that's hardly clear. We can't guess on that based on our personal feelings. We need hard data to back up these kinds of claims.
The only thing I'm comfortable standing particularly strongly against is pseudoscience. Beyond that, as far as I can tell, different outreach methods (provided it's not violent) reach different people.